I discovered something very strange about lovers today.
During courtship, they can't tolerate each other's absence. They must come together once in a while. They must hear each other's voices when they are lonely. They can spend hours on the phone. They can look longingly at one another for a long time. They can sit closely and talk softly but audibly. They can hold hands, hug one another in public and walk together sharing the same umbrella.
After marriage, especially after they have more children, they can't tolerate each other's presence. They must part company for a long while because they have unfinished businesses. They hardly talk on the phone and they seldom look eye to eye. They sit far apart and talk horribly loud. They don't hold hands anymore, they don't hug one another in public, and they seldom share the same umbrella.
I have seen married couples with kids quarrel in public places. The husband then walked very far ahead, and the wife followed from behind grumbling and shouting at the children who couldn't follow the pace. Then I saw the husband paused for a while, talked even louder and continued walking. And I noticed many people around were watching and laughing away.
But I have also noticed old couples walking slowly together in love. They still hold hands together. They still hug one another in public. And they still share the same umbrella.
Love takes time and effort. And it can still be very romantic. ... But it takes a lot of patience and tolerance.